• Raising Children & Adolescents to have High Self-Esteem

    Does your child suffer from anxiety or depression? Do they often report feeling awkward and self-conscious in social settings? Have you noticed that they are constantly comparing their lives to others and demanding things to measure up?

    Self-esteem is a concept that speaks to how we feel about ourselves. When one has high self-esteem, they feel confident, centered, and worthy of love. People with low self-esteem often feel shame and self-doubt. They often feel critical of themselves and that they are unworthy of love or praise.

    • Recognizing Low Self-Esteem – Individuals with low self-esteem typically cope with it using one of the following three models:
      • Imposter Syndrome – These individuals project false confidence and use their accomplishments to mask their insecurities. We often find perfectionists and procrastinators in this group.
      • Rebellion – These individuals pretend to not care about what others think of them. Feelings of inferiority may often come across as anger or blame. Some may act out by defying authority and even breaking the law.
      • Victimhood – In this scenario, low self-esteem causes the person to feel helpless in the face of life’s challenges. They may play the role of the victim and rely on others.

    Regardless of how low self-esteem manifests, the results are always the same:

    • Depression and anxiety
    • Lack of joy in life
    • Anger, guilt, sadness
    • Self-doubt
    • A lack of resilience
    • Loneliness
    • Isolation
    • Eating issues
    • Codependency
    • Self-harm

    Treatment for Low Self-Esteem

    The good news is that self-esteem is something that can be changed by changing your beliefs, behavior and how you think about yourself. Having said this, most people developed their self-esteem issues in childhood and have been living with low self-esteem for a very long time. For this reason, it is advised that they seek the guidance of a trained therapist.

    Having a knowledgeable and supportive therapist in your corner can help you develop a healthier and more realistic approach to helping your child.  He or she will help you connect the dots in your child’s life, discover where your child’s low self-esteem came from, and provide tools so you can help your child absolve negative beliefs and critical self-talk and replace them with self-love and self-compassion.

    If you  are a parent or caregiver and your child suffers from low self-esteem and you would like to explore treatment options, please reach out to me.